Remaining single is always more challenging than being in so called “In a Relationship” and being married every where in the world when it comes to prejudices.
In USA and other western nation, such single person are in risk of being prejudiced by society, institutions and grown ups as homosexuals, lesbians, transsexual and whore-monger.
GOD knows what people think of devoted Christian singles.
Here in Nepal, remaining single has prejudicial problems.
Single’s challenges in Church
The churches in Nepal think singles are inappropriate for ministries especially pastor, missionary and evangelism. The one who does not have ability to start family is unworthy to serve church ministries.
Single man gets into constant trouble with single girls. The young single girls are seeking for a possible relationship to result in marriage and family start up. The youth willing to discard interest of young beauties worsen spiritual fellowship.
The leaders try to work as middle man for marriage between singles, but when singles repeatedly reject the choices, leader and congregation avoid good conversation. It’s like blackmailing singles to marry to have better fellowship with congregation.
Christian singles are in risk of getting in relationship with unbelievers due to prolonged lack of christian couple relationship and repeated rejections. The christian singles fill vacuum of loneliness by spending time with worldly people often resulting in love affair, marriage, abortions and backsliding. It usually start with casual dating.
Single’s challenge in Society
Whenever a rural young teens and adults travel to Kathmandu-capital of Nepal for higher education, occupation and training, they have tough time to room rent.For house owners young rural singles are not good client to rent apartment. As a result struggling singles spend time on hotel rooms, streets, bus station and parks until they get a room on rent costing above Rs 5000 per months.
They also face judgement from their native locality as possible predator of sex to young girls. The rural girls usually don’t speak to such unmarried men and try hard to avoid them by preventing eye contact and communications.
In Kathmandu, house-owners owners fear young single adults may trap daughter in laws, daughters, wives including the pretty young girls in the localities with affair. House owners will ask, “Are you married and do you have a family?” if you say no, they will tell you “We don’t provide rooms for singles.”
Singles usually face the prejudices from their own locality as whore mongers, drunkards. party lovers, drug addicts and loiterers if they remain single for a long time. On some level they are true by believing many singles are whore mongers but that has led them to generalize every singles as whore mongers.
Pressure for marriage
Due to such prejudicial problems young singles feel pressurized for marriage and family start up. Many relatives, teachers, friends and family members constantly torture young singles for marriage despite financial crisis, unemployment, insufficient higher educations, skills and maturity.
Many educated, professionals, experts, colleagues, married couples and romance couples undermine singles with view of loner. To them, singles are not well in mingling and understanding people.
They tell, ” We know you are very lonely. It’s time you should have relationship and marry to understand people.”
By just experiencing this type of prejudices we come to know how people prejudiced single Jesus Christ during his ministry.
The Son of man came eating and drinking, and they say, Behold a man gluttonous, and a winebibber, a friend of publicans and sinners. Matthew 11:19