Dangerous One Sided Love
People tend to develop a liking for others and they don’t know the reason behind it. Could it be romantic indulgence, beauty, sex, wealth, popularity or even for friendship, family members, community and relatives.
Whatever it could be, one sided love is not healthy when it comes to selfish needs and lust. People with one sided love suffer due to lack of same love expression from the other person especially in romantic love between man and woman.
The one sided love is incomplete due to the other person’s disagreement, promise, wishes and compromises. There is no common connection between the hearts.
The signs of one side love could be as follows:
Only one individual does most of the communication, the individual does not return the favor, the other person chose friends over the individual, feeling of apologizing for things you should not apologized for, ignoring relationship problems, constantly stressed out and lacks care.
Christ’s one sided love:
Christ loved the world though he did not get it back with the same value. Today millions of Christians claim, they love GOD but is far from the love of CHRIST. Out of all 70 disciples, 12 Apostles, Jews and Gentiles there was possibly no one who truly loved CHRIST during arrest and crucifixion. Peter followed HIM unto cross but denied three times.
If people don’t respond to Christ’s one sided love to make it two sided, they are going to perish. Christ said, “He that loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.” Matthews 10:37
Jesus replied: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with your entire mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.” Matthews 22:37-39
This is a stern warning for whole humanity. Only Christ’s one side love cannot protect and make it to eternity, there must be reaction of love towards Christ’s liking and love or at least sincere effort to love him.
One sided love between believers and community
There are some people who become like Christ showing love to believers, family members and community. Such type of one sided lovers might go through painful experiences as Christ, Apostles and Disciples. No matter how many times, the one sided lovers try to bring others to gospel truth with practices; there is no respond from the other party. There is constant care, prayer, word sharing, admonishing to bring them closer to GOD, but all they do is love themselves, people, money and world. Such people may claim of loving GOD but their actions are proving they don’t. Every religion has taught humans to love, so people of other religion other than Christianity has not excuse as well.
GOD constantly asked Jeremiah to stop praying and caring for Israelites in Jeremiah 11:14 and 7:16. And the LORD said unto Samuel, How long wilt thou mourn for Saul, seeing I have rejected him from reigning over Israel? 1 Samuel 16:1. If you see any brother or sister commit a sin that does not lead to death, you should pray and God will give them life. I refer to those whose sin does not lead to death. There is a sin that leads to death. I am not saying that you should pray about that. 1 John 5:16
So sad, it’s true. One sided love has never worked, neither for GOD nor man.
One sided love in social- media and technology
The world is shrinking with growing technology and internet. With mailing, social networking sites, websites, blogging, news portals etc one sided love is visible or invisible.
Technology such as education, books, transportation, computers etc are mediums for networking, information and communications. These days internet is a software that is operated to link all the technology.
Social Media such as Facebook, Twitter, websites, blogs and mails have features such as likes, share, love, anger, smile, cry, respond, forward, reply, comment and so on. Not responding to photos, status, videos and posts somehow brings pain to person’s heart. Slowly other person starts feeling irritated of one sided reaction with Facebook friends who may even be fake.
The individual’s posts directly or indirectly hurt or love other people’s needs and emotions. Sadly it’s impossible to please every people if individual are social media addict. Many individual think getting reaction is competition so they even despise reaction to others post which worsen the relationship. People pleasers are ready to post anything by joining groups, hangouts, community etc in Social Media and degrade their genuine identity with deceptive liking and love and don’t give damn to GOD’s word like people pleasing evil King Saul.
People who share GOD’s love to love people through technology could be one sided for most of the times. To avoid these they should begin to connect with more people who are willing to share GOD’s love and truth rather than their worldly posts. The worldly posts are dangerous and self seeking especially the kissing expression of selfies, pictures with revealing dress and status, blogs with unGODly information.
There are some social media users who think that only other party should follow, like, respond, comment etc. These are more dangerous for the one sided lovers. Run away from them, they will ruin you with indifference and prejudice ready-made by Devil.
So it’s utmost important to know if an individual is just the one sided lover in Christianity. Community and Social Medias